Enquiring of the Lord in our Relationships part 2
We see the enquiring of the Lord through David in the old testament. When David talked or asked the Lord about situations he was successful in those situations like in 1 Samuel 30:8 and when he didn't; he got himself in trouble. See the example below:
David inquired of the Lord, saying, “Shall I pursue this band [of raiders]? Will I overtake them?” And He answered him, “Pursue, for you will certainly overtake them, and you will certainly rescue [the captives].” AMP
Examples of direction that might come from God after enquiring him.
Sometimes the Lord wants you to intercede and fight that situation in prayer.
There might be times when we need to take authority over the enemy who is trying to destroy the relationships God has given us through unity, walking in love, and commanding the enemy to leave these relationships, exposing whatever it is he is doing through prayer, openly and giving him notice that he will not be apart of this relationship any. Sometimes we need to speak out loud that we know what he is doing but he has no power here.
For example, you might notice there are a lot of accusations and lies in your relationships or fear that something bad is going to happen; this is where you boldly declare the truth with the Word of God, walking in the truth, not the accusation, whether or not the other party is in agreement with you.
Other times, the battle is within ourselves. It is not the other person who needs to change—it is us who have trauma, bitterness, or are being triggered. Therefore, we need healing and we need to invite God into that place because we are interpreting relationship situations through our own wounds and narrative.
This concept—or rather, this revelation—has saved many of my relationships that I otherwise would have blown up. The Lord has been challenging me to come to Him for everything. As I have done that with my relationships, allowing His Word and His opinion to shape my responses, it has been incredible.
On some occasions, He has told me to hold my tongue and love anyway. In other situations, He has told me to forgive and give them a call without mentioning the offence. Other times, He has told me not to say anything but simply wait for pursue me or to message me. There have also been moments where the Lord has defended the people I was talking to Him about or shall I say complaining; and reminding me that they do love me, they are for me, even though it doesn't feel that way in the moment.
The Jesus has also shown me that sometimes I simply need to let things go or let people go because they are no longer in my life, we are no longer on the same journey, they are not good for me and at times he has showed me their hearts concerning me and it wasn’t good but it was freeing to let them go. We can do things knowing God will bring the right relationship to us that we need.
For example, there are certain relationships where He has called me to be a Jonathan—a faithful supporter—or a Barnabas—an encourager—to someone, even if they may never be that person for me.
This is what the Lord is walking me through, and it is changing and challenging me because sometimes the people he wants me to reach out to, in the natural I would rather leave alone. It is revolutionising my relationships because I am beginning to understand who God has called to me and who He has called me to. It has made it easier not to place unrealistic expectations on people that God never asked them to carry.
God has changed my family relationships and my friendships. He has restored relationships that I have prayed for for years. He has renewed my mind towards people because I have taken my thoughts and interpretations to Him and allowed Him to help me move forward.
Some of us follow our thoughts and feelings more than we follow God and His Word, and then we wonder why our relationships are falling apart or they are not working. Many of us forget that no matter how mature we become or how much healing we have experienced, we still need Jesus in our lives—and we still need Him in our relationships, and we still have a real enemy that opposes them.
Philippians 4:6–8 is therefore a wonderful reminder to take our anxious thoughts and feelings to God:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
I hope this blog has been helpful to you and has reminded you of how much God loves you and desires to walk with us through the ups and downs of our relationships.
Love Sarah
